Episode 330: Vani Kovitch - Why Leaving A Narcissist Feels Terrifying
High conflict divorce is not simply the end of a marriage. For many people, it becomes a fight for safety, sanity, children, finances, identity, and the chance to build a life beyond fear.
In this episode of Limitless, I sit down with Vani Kovitch, Certified High Conflict Divorce Coach and host of Endgame: Mastering the High Conflict Divorce, for a conversation that is both deeply personal and highly practical.
Vani lived through her own high conflict divorce after 21 years of marriage, while recovering from spinal fusion surgery. She could barely walk, was in constant physical pain, and at the same time faced what she describes as mental and emotional warfare from a spouse with narcissistic tendencies.
What stayed with me most was not only the cruelty of what she endured, but the courage it took to keep moving when fear was present every day. Vani does not pretend that leaving a narcissistic relationship is simple. She speaks honestly about shame, isolation, children being used as leverage, the importance of documentation, choosing the right attorney, and building the right support team before the situation breaks you further.
Her message is clear: fear may still be there, but it does not have to be the thing that controls your next step.
This episode is for anyone who feels trapped, overwhelmed, or unsure how to move forward. Courage is not the absence of fear. Sometimes courage means going forward while still terrified.
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Website: https://www.vanidivorcecoach.com/
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